A Story About A Nice Girl…

The Perks of Being Alone.

There are many wonderful advantages to being alone.  I can say this now that I am single and far from mingling.

“You have to learn how to be happy alone, so when lonely pours in, you’ll be more than fine, you’ll be relieved.”

I recently put this up as a facebook status after being inspired by a video (below).

While relationships and love are all wonderful things, trust me I love being in love.  Being alone doesn’t have to be a punishment after a relationship goes awry.

For example I was in a 16 month relationship, very much in love and all that shit, but it didn’t work out.  Why? Well let say this guy loves being in love more than me and when our relationship got rocky he went to another woman.  I left him, and he moved on to her.  But at first I was pretty sad about it, I mean come on, who wouldn’t be?

That was in April, we are now in the month of August and im actually relieved to be single.  I’ve had a pretty wonderful summer.  I mean clearly everyday isn’t going to be easy.  But I have learned to be happy alone and I know that the next time that I get my heartbroken, which will happen.  I will bounce back so much quicker because I know how to be happy alone.

You must learn to keep yourself happy because people are flawed they will make mistakes, they will fuck up, and they will make you unhappy.  So you must be there  for you, you must love you, and you must make your self happy as fuck.  Make sense.

This single summer of mine, I learned so much, things I wouldn’t have learned if that relationship would have continued.  I would have spent my time, arguing, crying, wishing and praying he would work harder to make me happy.  When that wasnt up to him, all along it was my responsibility to make me happy and the minute i noticed that i was unhappy in that relationship I should have left and started over with myself.

This isn’t just about being alone after a relationship, this is about being ok with being alone anytime, during lunch, or while at home, on the train ride home, at the movies.  It’s ok to hang out with yourself.  You’re the coolest person you know, so why not spend quality time with yourself.

“..Cause if you’re happy in your head, then solitude is blessed, and alone is ok” (from the vid)

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